Somebody
reminded me today a popular saying: " If you can't find anything nice
to say about someone, say nothing". I am very familiar with this of
course, and most of the time I try to do just that. I am not as a rule a
very talkative person anyway, Unless I am with someone in a
conversation on subjects we are both extremely enthusiastic about.
I
have to confess that I am not always too willing to obey that
particular rule or guideline. I conduct my life with the firm
conviction that I should always be honest, frank & truthful to
others and, most of all, to myself. I hate lies, hypocrisy &
flattery. That's not to say I have never lied in my life. Wouldn't that have been the biggest lie in the world anyone could ever told?
If
I were proposed a 2nd date when I hated the 1st, I would likely say I
was too busy or I didn't think it would ever work, rather than being
brutally blunt that I'd rather die first! I would never ever pretend to
be something or someone I am not, & I find it most annoying when
someone gives me obviously insincere flattery. Therefore I myself would
not give one. That's the time I would rather keep silent than to say
anything.
In
my opinion it's not always a good idea to keep silent about everything
though. The ambiguous silence would accumulate misunderstandings,
mistrust or even resentment over a period of time, which would take up
so much space in the heart leaving no room for love & respect. On a
larger spectrum, a political uproar or worst.
I
got myself into trouble more than a few times with my principles.
Somebody may not accept my little white lie, nor allow me to keep quiet
for instance. Pressed hard for a response I would eventually own up
but, alas, not everyone likes to hear or face the truth.
I have over the years learned to accept that too.
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