** Old Age, I decided, is a gift! **
I
am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have
always wanted to be. Oh, not my body! I sometime despair over my body -
the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. And often I am taken
aback by that old person that lives in my mirror, but I don't agonize
over those things for long.
I
would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving
family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become
more kind to and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I
don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my
bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks
so avante-garde on my patio. I am entitled to overeat, to be messy, to
be extravagant. I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too
soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with ageing.
Whose
business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 am,
and sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes
of the 60's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love
... I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a
bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to,
despite the pitying glances from the bikini set. They, too, will get old
if they are lucky! I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again,
some of life is just as well forgotten, and I eventually remember the
important things.
Sure,
over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break
when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when a
beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us
strength, understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine
and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.
I
am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turn gray, and
to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my
face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver. I can say "no," and mean it. I can say "yes," and mean it.
As
you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what
other people think. I don't question myself any more. I've even earned
the right to be wrong.
So,
to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like
the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am
still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or
worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day.
Today, I wish you a day of ordinary miracles.
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