Elegance & Sexiness

A friend blogged a few days ago on the subject of feminine beauty and sexiness. I found it most refreshing to hear his opinions from a male's point of view and commented on his Blog my own thoughts and opinions. On the whole, we coincided in various points. Mainly, too many women try too hard to mask their natural looks, good or not so good, by using far too much cosmetics.

As to sexiness, that in my opinion is like elegance, there is not a lot a woman can do to acquire these by putting on any so claimed magical products, nor can she go to a beauty salon, a gymnasium or even a cosmetic surgeon to achieve sexiness or elegance. These two elements, though not necessarily inborn, are mysteriously something she either has or has not. A certain dedication and lots of in depth study could help a woman to develop such qualities if she knows well her own possibilities and limitations.

One of the biggest mistake a woman can make is thinking that if she bares her body, she looks sexy. Sure if she has a good and shapely body, showing it will definitely attract lots of attention, more to the point, basic animal lust. Much like a dog smelling out a bitch on heat.

Real sexiness is what and how much her eyes reveals, the subtle body language that tells that she IS sexy. That her looks, gestures, unvoiced words, half smiles are all inviting to exploration, and intimacy that's tender and giving. Even if she is not exactly beautiful. Too many people rush about having sex. Making love is quite something else, definitely not to be rushed.

And, elegance has very little to do with how expensive a woman's cloths are, or whether they are designer wear or not. A Valentino gown or Christian Dior dress can't give any woman elegance, which comes within a woman's being, and shows in the way she moves, walks, talks, and even when she is totally still and silent, in a cotton dress that covers her from neck to toe.

Yet ...... at the sight of her, all men would think: Wow, what a sexy woman!', and other women would be quietly green with envy.

Tags: Elegance,Sexiness,Love,Lust